Swing Lifestyle Questions

[eyeofthestorm]

What I forgot to say: A good partnership based on trust and communication seems to be fundamental for going to clubs together. I enjoy seeing her lust with other men which I couldn´t if that basis wouldn´t exist. We talked a lot before and after visits and we communicated by looking at each other during the activities.

Is it called compersion, right ?

I didn´t understand the meaning of that word completely until I found this:

https://swingershelp.com/does-swinging- ... hurt-love/

An interesting post on a very informative site about our topic here. Especially #5 on compersion got me.

[cruzsilva]

Curious but shouldnt this post/ thread be under internal talk with members section as theres no recording with this post?

[rabbit61]

I suggested Paul posting the questions here viewforum.php?f=23 but it may have not been understood due to some language barriers.

I would suspect if Yeppie wishes he could move it to another thread or make a sticky out of it or something and leave it here maybe.

Curious but shouldnt this post/ thread be under internal talk with members section as theres no recording with this post?

[yeppie]

I suggested Paul posting the questions here viewforum.php?f=23 but it may have not been understood due to some language barriers.

I would suspect if Yeppie wishes he could move it to another thread or make a sticky out of it or something and leave it here maybe.

Curious but shouldnt this post/ thread be under internal talk with members section as theres no recording with this post?

You both are right but me thought, this could be a good exception from the rule as it came up in the swingers´ section and could upgrade this new part of the forum with informative content. Might move it at some point later though.

[wisper]

How common is it that men or women that are married or in a serious relationship where their partner DOESN'T know they participate in these activities?

[rabbit61]

I have a female friend in the lifestyle and from what I have heard there are quite a few guys that do it (though they all claim they are "getting separated" or whatever). I would suspect it is more common with men than women.

How common is it that men or women that are married or in a serious relationship where their partner DOESN'T know they participate in these activities?

[sndprv]

Came across this article by chance (it's 2 years old) about dating apps for couples, as opposed to the usual dating
apps for singles.

https://www.theupcoming.co.uk/2020/10/0 ... r-couples/

It basically lists dating apps for people who are looking for threesomes(!)

[saydamoda]

First of all, thank you for your valuable information and experience. As a stranger to this environment, you mentioned online sites and clubs? Can I find out what these are and what your websites are? And is it possible to get an e-mail from you to listen to more of your memories? It is available in my profile.
I am very curious about these environments and I want to watch them.

[Fanatic]

So here are some questions about the LS

1.First of all how long have you been in the LS, how old are you and your partner and when and how did you start ?

We are in our 50's now. We started in the LS around 2007.

2. What is the age of the people you meet or you see around being part of it ?

Usually around our age, + or - 10 years

3. How has your relationship with the partner evolved during this period ?

We've become closer. I found that playing with others puts a hyperfocus on my own wife. We are also much more open and honest with each other.

4 Do you use online sites or you just go to clubs?

We started at clubs, but evolved into doing our own thing with whomever we want. We mostly play with others during vacations and business trips.

5. What about Std and how often do you test ? Is it rude or unpractical to ask others to exhibit their test results ?

We definitely test. It's not rude to ask others. If you practice safe sex, things should be good.

6. When having intercourse how long does it take in average ? Do people bring toys?

This can vary based on the scenario, schedule, personal interests and desires. If you're just swapping partners, intercourse can last minutes to hours. Yes, people bring and use toys.

7. How orgasmic are people in average in the LS ? Do you often meet multiorgasmic women ? Are there any multiorgasmic men ? With multiorgasmic I mean the ability to have more than one orgasm in a single session

People in the LS tend to be much more open about trying things out. Plus, when you're around someone new, or trying a scenario that you can't with a traditional M/F session, you bet that people are more orgasmic. There have been times we've played with others where I've had at least 6 orgasms in a night. But again, it's person dependent and scenario dependent.

8. I have heard many men are subject to performance issues thus most of them use cialis or Viagra or pt141.. is that true ?

It happens! The difficult part is relaxing, especially at first. I've had issues sometimes, but I also have a viagra prescription for those longer planned evenings.

9. Do you disclose it to your friends ? If yes how do they react to it?

Not really.

Thanks

[Paul7979]

Curious but shouldnt this post/ thread be under internal talk with members section as theres no recording with this post?

Thanks @cruzsilva for your thorough and friendly answer regarding the hygiene in clubs. I really appreciate it for taking the time to do it.

viewtopic.php?t=11438

I put a link here so as to have also this source of information on this specific thread.

[mjj9994]

Hi Paul,

Most members on the forum here are very courteous and try and answer any reasonable questions about sex sounds. However, this is a sex sound forum and in that spirit please try to limit your questions to the sex sounds themselves and not other various topics. From what I have seen many of your questions have nothing to do with the sex sounds themselves but more about the venue or people involved. This is not the correct forum for those questions. Most people on the forum here do not wish to discuss with strangers personal questions (how do you feel, what do you think, how do you react, etc.) and questions about the facilities or other non related questions to the sex sounds can be better answered on other forums throughout the internet. Below are a few forums your questions about sex club facilities would be more appropriate to ask your questions instead of the board here.

I understand that there is a thread for "Swing Lifestyle Questions", most of your questions are not general in nature and are very specific (i.e. how clean was the club). I am sure you understand that all clubs are different and even if it was a chain of clubs (like Walmart) the cleanliness and operations may still be very different from country to country. I would recommend asking these questions in another internet forum specific for your country and topic instead of asking them on the forum here (i.e. please try googling Sex Club hygiene in North Korea, Zimbabwae, etc.) rather then ask the questions here.

In the future if could you please try to limit your questions to only the sex sounds posted or very general questions and not specific to other people or your area. Thanks!

https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comme ... questions/
https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comme ... questions/

[Paul7979]

Hi Paul,

Most members on the forum here are very courteous and try and answer any reasonable questions about sex sounds. However, this is a sex sound forum and in that spirit please try to limit your questions to the sex sounds themselves and not other various topics. From what I have seen many of your questions have nothing to do with the sex sounds themselves but more about the venue or people involved. This is not the correct forum for those questions. Most people on the forum here do not wish to discuss with strangers personal questions (how do you feel, what do you think, how do you react, etc.) and questions about the facilities or other non related questions to the sex sounds can be better answered on other forums throughout the internet. Below are a few forums your questions about sex club facilities would be more appropriate to ask your questions instead of the board here.

I understand that there is a thread for "Swing Lifestyle Questions", most of your questions are not general in nature and are very specific (i.e. how clean was the club). I am sure you understand that all clubs are different and even if it was a chain of clubs (like Walmart) the cleanliness and operations may still be very different from country to country. I would recommend asking these questions in another internet forum specific for your country and topic instead of asking them on the forum here (i.e. please try googling Sex Club hygiene in North Korea, Zimbabwae, etc.) rather then ask the questions here.

In the future if could you please try to limit your questions to only the sex sounds posted or very general questions and not specific to other people or your area. Thanks!

https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comme ... questions/
https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comme ... questions/

Hi.

First of all it is very clear now that a handful of people here don't like my threads on human sexuality or similar so be assured from now on I will refrain from asking questions or post threads on topics like these.

I have also realized that people ask very specific questions (how your wife looks like etc etc) probably much more specific than those I usually raise but as far as I've seen so far for no one has reacted the same way, most folks gently answer if they deem to do so or they just say they can't answer and so on.

The thread you mentioned "Swing Lifestyle Questions" as other similar threads (for example the one on men multiple orgasms) was beforehand discussed with Yeppie and other members who like myself are interested in exchanging ideas even if specific but however impliedly anonymous given the nature of this forum, it's written here on the forum.

I did exchange with other members before doing so because I was new here (and I'm still relatively new) and I wanted to make sure I didn't do something which was not usually discussed here, or worse, something against the rules. So when I posted these threads I did it in good faith having gotten a general assurance and understanding that there could be an interest to do so. In fact people have participated without objecting anything or have liked my posts when they deemed fit to do so.

Moreover, when I have asked questions either specific or general I have been very respectful and polite with everyone.

Last but not least Id like to let you know that I know very well how google or reddit work, I got your message and these indications, as you can understand yourself, weren't really necessary.

Peace.

Best