nefdemisk wrote: ↑31 Aug 2024 07:27
Thank you so much for sharing. Your audios are wonderful and very enjoyable to listen to. If it is not too personal, please allow me to ask for your advice. I would like to seek a lot of sex. But I'm concerned about STDs. Have you ever contracted an STD from one of your several partners at the same time? According to your medical knowledge, do you fear contracting STDs? Would you refrain from having sex until the symptoms of an STD subside and you test negative again? Thank you so much for your advice!
This is a good question, and so requires a good answer.
The simple answer is, always use condoms. The other simple answer is, stay in a monogamous sexual relationship with one partner only. Unfortunately, those answers don’t apply to me, and if you are hoping to connect with multiple partners, then those answers won’t work for you either.
I contracted a STD when I was around 25. It was bacterial, treated successfully with a single course of antibiotics. It was with a woman around my age, who misrepresented to me how many other partners she had back then. She was this tall slim but voluptuous blonde woman, and I wasn’t thinking clearly. She was hooking up multiple men during the time we were seeing each other, and I didn't know about that. I don’t know if I would be able to avoid this woman at my age now (as in, would I be able to spot her bullshit now), but at that time I saw some red flags that I ignored. I was only thinking with my other ‘head’.
Since then, I’ve not had any issues. I tend to vet more carefully and more thoroughly now. I can sense lies and bullshit much better now as well. I often work into initial conversations whether they’re currently seeing anyone sexually or romantically, or if they’re in some kind of situationship, or if they’re looking to hook up with lots of other men. It’s not easy to ask these questions in a setting where you barely know them, but it can be done in a tactful manner successfully. They could lie to you of course, but that’s where your bullshit meter comes in to play.
Best advice is, listen to your gut feeling. If a woman seems too attractive to be true, and a party animal out almost every night, and the first time you have sex she doesn’t even mention protection, then perhaps you need to think twice.
Always carry at least two condoms on you at all times.
In the end, there is no sure fire way to avoid STDs. You take a risk every time you have sex with anyone, even your long term partner / spouse. People lie and cheat - that’s the first rule of practicing medicine.