Why women are having more affairs than ever
Posted: 13 Apr 2023 19:40
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Why women are having more affairs than ever
Throughout her nearly decade-long marriage 38-year-old *Fi has, to varying degrees, cheated on her husband.
Everything from seemingly small indiscretions (sexting strangers) to the extreme end of the spectrum (attending
sex parties with both men and women).
“Before we got together, I was very sexually active. Going to BDSM clubs was really part of my identity,” she says.
“I was in my twenties and wanted to explore those different parts of myself. But my partner wasn’t into [my more
kinkier sexual preferences].”
She began finding people she could colour outside of the lines of matrimony with. “I think it’s unrealistic that we can
get everything we can possibly need from one partner,” Fi argues. “And if the other partner isn’t up for an open
relationship, that means the other person is making a sacrifice.”
Stories like this are still laced with a certain shock factor, but mostly because of a traditional lack of female
perspectives on affairs, and indeed on expansive sexual desire. The word is very much out on the multifarious
sexual needs for all genders in academic circles — and pop culture to a degree, post-Fifty Shades of Grey. In social
circles, there is now less of a taboo. Fi is far from a lone woman breaking free from monogamy.
Since 1990, the number of women who admit to cheating has risen by 40%, according to researcher Esther Perel.
In 2022, according to website The Truth About Deception, 67 per cent of men and 53 per cent of women had cheated
at least once that year.
Recently, London was found to be UK’s epicentre for affairs. One survey revealed that 168,322 of London’s eight
million residents admitted they were currently having affairs.
Illicit Encounters, known as the UK’s “leading married dating website”, revealed this year alone they had seen a
50 per cent increase in women signing up to their affair matchmaking services.
