the dark side of ... split from "sex, drugs but no rock and roll. frequent updates"

[masterofnone]

For me after years of thought on the issue I think while my reasons include almost all of thee above the one that strikes me the most true is that it’s a form of safety. I didn’t have the best first couple sexual experiences and religion didn’t exactly help either and the only time I felt safe maybe with this subject is the first time I heard my neighbors - I was 14, it was actually my first actual encounter with sex outside of my early bad experiences where it was just confusing. I think now it’s hardwired into my brain the way healthy sex is with some people. Is it healthy for me? To beg for another hit knowing it’s legally grey, a slippery slope, it puts me in compromising situations where if caught it would be a huge embarrassment? No. I don’t love the feeling of seeing myself crouched next to the wall heart racing… but I get over it quick haha. If I could trade this feeling for a healthy sex life with one partner, wow what a gift. Till then I’m less keen to starve myself of the only sexual experience that I actually like.

[Stott13]

I can't stand the fake porn you get

Yeah, same here. It's a big turn off for me when it didn't sound/look genuine. The sound has to match the faces, body language, and the action.

I'll only only get turned on by hearing a couple in love, in a relationship and having fun in bed. Hearing some guy with an escort does absolutely nothing for me.