the dark side of ... split from "sex, drugs but no rock and roll. frequent updates"

[yeppie]

I wonder how many people experience that this "hobby" takes them to a very dark and unpleasant place after a bit of excitement. And how people deal with it.
Know something about it PM me.

To me this sounds like a perfectly interesting topic to be discussed in the forum ... as long as we don´t get into areas of too illegal things to confess.

[real.one]

I wonder how many people experience that this "hobby" takes them to a very dark and unpleasant place after a bit of excitement. And how people deal with it.
Know something about it PM me.

To me this sounds like a perfectly interesting topic to be discussed in the forum ... as long as w
e don´t get into areas of too illegal things to confess.

something like asking for a friend....

I'm more interested about mental wellbeing.

[yeppie]

something like asking for a friend....

I'm more interested about mental wellbeing.

Could you explain this a little further?

[Anker1]

something like asking for a friend....

I'm more interested about mental wellbeing.

Could you explain this a little further?

I think I get what real.one might be on about.

As with many or even most out of us this listening kink is a very visceral thing. When I hear those sounds something inside my mind switches on and the mind itself seems to get caught between an oversensitivity to any stimulus and a sort of disconnection that favors bodily sensations. I get hot and bothered, I get hard, I even get wet.

This kind of intense lustful excitement is one that I've never ever felt apart perhaps during my childhood and adolescence. It is, one the one hand, a formidable expression of health and vitality to feel such desire but, on the other hand, I've always felt that there was a price to pay for it.

When silence is resumed, when reality gets back to my mind and my body turns back to being a way of locomotion for my head instead of a fully autonomous and thinking entity... dark thoughts arise.

What am I, if not a pervert picking up the crumbles of some other people's healthy enjoyment of sex ? What am I, but a strange and insignificant character with his ears stuck to the wall, I ask ?

It'd be easy to discard those thoughts entirely as mere symptoms of post-orgasmic hormonal imbalance, for it is quite probable that most men experience those, but the cycle repeats itself endlessly. The ears pick up sounds, the mind interprets and the guts get involved.

Of course, one's personal situation plays an enormous role I'm sure, but there's something about our kink that looks like a trap, like a mirage of some sort.

I don't want to derail that thread with my negativity nor do I want to project my own issues onto other people's experience, especially since @real.one has expressed the need to talk about it. Feel free to delete or put this post somewhere else. I'd be genuinely interested to discuss this further, either privately via PM or publicly.

[real.one]

@yeppie let's create a new thread maybe section here where members could post how they cope with their issues and what's bothers them. With a legal disclaimer that is not professional help and maybe links to SLA and other professional bodies?

[real.one]

Yeah. I can say I experience supernatural hearing for a very small spectrum of sounds. Once some spoiler triggers it. It is funny when it is a false alarm like cat snoring etc . But unfunny moment is when you are tired of it or a question why... quote:" everybody got laid, but only me got fucked".
Sometimes my friends words are helping that is is just a sound that people do like sneezing or farting......

[Anker1]

Yeah. I can say I experience supernatural hearing for a very small spectrum of sounds. Once some spoiler triggers it. It is funny when it is a false alarm like cat snoring etc . But unfunny moment is when you are tired of it or a question why... quote:" everybody got laid, but only me got fucked".
Sometimes my friends words are helping that is is just a sound that people do like sneezing or farting......

Everybody got laid, but only me got fucked. That's a good way to put it. No pun intended.

You talked to your friends about it ? That's nice.

I've often envied the frequent uploaders here, those that live near very sexually active folks, but on reflection that would probably end up being really tough.

[GwenLake]

Intersting. I feel somehow ashamed too, but I also feel it's totally normal, if not a very exctiting, intellectual hobby. Like an artist trying to capture the muse, to appreciate the very essence of sex taken from another.

Maybe this article could help : https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/0 ... dvice.html

[Anker1]

Intersting. I feel somehow ashamed too, but I also feel it's totally normal, if not a very exctiting, intellectual hobby. Like an artist trying to capture the muse, to appreciate the very essence of sex taken from another.

Maybe this article could help : https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/0 ... dvice.html

On my part it's not really shame, though I probably wouldn’t want my kink to be known by my entourage but that goes with the territory of kinks and fetishes, it's rather more a weird sort of envy that seeps in.

It's obviously not entirely negative of course, it's got highs and lows.

[Skane]

I'll try to write in english though it's not my native language, so please be indulgent.

I never really felt any dark side from this "hobby". Well, I actually discovered I loved to hear girls moaning when I was at university, and my roommates were fucking and they almost liked or, at least, didn't care I was hearing them. I guess it helps.

By the way, I'm basically not a nosy guy : I just take pleasure to hear a girl taking pleasure. I don't really like to hear the guy either. The thing with audiospy is authenticity. My brain immediately switch on the "real sex in live" mode and I know it's not staged or porn or anything else.
Sometimes, it brings me back to my loneliness and after a "session" (lol) the silence is a little boring, but it's OK.

I guess that I'd have some difficulty in assuming the gaze of others though.